Sev Necati worked in partnership with Pembury Community Centre, and the Tampon and Tampax campaign!

Sev Necati worked in partnership with Pembury Community Centre, and the Tampon and Tampax campaign, to deliver our award winning project “Women & Young People’s Safety Solution.”

We delivered two successful courses and this is how our first course made a positive impact and difference to the group!

Our course is specifically designed for women and girls to teach them how to keep safe and empower them to make positive choices.  The training works towards reducing violence towards women and girls.  They learn how to build confidence and self-worth.  Females take part in sporting activities, including self-defence activities and increase their fitness levels, stamina, and strength and have an improvement in their overall mental and emotional well-being.

The project worked with local residents, from a variety of backgrounds, ages, abilities and provides a safe and confidential all-inclusive service, to reduce isolation, victimisation, fears, as well as providing an avenue to build friendship’s.

The Participant - Case Study - One

Taz, 43, India, married, 7 children.

Please tell us why you became involved in your project/activities?

I became involved in the course because I wanted to be more confident on the street and defend myself and feel better in myself.

I wanted to feel if my children were in an incident if something happened to them, I wanted to feel that I could protect them in bad situations and do things correctly if anything was to arise.  I have had people that have abused my children but I have done nothing about it and I have felt that I wanted to protect them.

My son, who was 16 at the time and was with another family member, was in an attempted mugging with a knife, I was away, and they were asking for money and that really shock me up, when I heard about it.  Even though I wasn’t there I didn’t experience it, I thought to myself, what would I have done if I was there, I would have been clueless.  I realised you can’t protect your kids all the time.

Also I was on my way to the hospital and my arm was in a cast and I saw a man following me.  As I noticed this, they then started chasing me, after he confronted me and I pushed him away with my cast, I started to run and they said they would get me next time.  I actually pushed him before I ran off and if hadn’t had the cast on me then I would not been able to do that as he was bigger than me, stronger and taller.

I felt shaken and frightened and there was no-one around at the time, it was day light and there was a school across the road and I knew I was in deep trouble as they were not scared as they were bold enough to do this in the day.

So when your course came up that made me really want to do it. 

Please tell us how participating helped you?

The main things the sessions have helped me, they have defiantly motivated me to take care of myself.

I got a lot more out of the course than I thought, originally I thought I was only going to learn a few moves, but actually joining the group, I mentally felt better because of all the theory you covered.  I learnt that I have to take better take care of myself, as I hadn’t dealt with a lot of issues within myself, that I had experienced and when I would feel low it would come out as as anger.  So when we spoke about taking care of ourselves, I now feel more feel confident to say no to people, I never put myself first before, everyone has noticed the difference in me, that I am now willing to do things that suit me and not them, it has really boosted me in that way, so I am doing more for myself and not for others as I was a yes person before but now I am taking better care of myself.

I made some really good friends and we are going to keep in touch and they are friends that are going to bring the positive side out of me.

The activities we did were great, the floor work and other activities I would love to continue, the activities were really hard and I was surprised I could do them, I feel that in the future I will feel more able that I can do something like this, as your course was really inspiring and enabled me to believe in myself.

The group was different ages, backgrounds and abilities and that was really good as you did a great job of selecting the group with such diversity.

You are a great teacher as you really got everyone involved in actually taking part in all the activities and you really encouraged everyone.

Please tell us what has changed for you as a result of engaging with the project?

What has changed for me is before I would go from A to B and not look around and wouldn’t take any notice of anything, now I look around me and don’t take short cuts and know what to do if someone is following me, so I am more aware and self-aware and feel more confident generally, with and without my children.  I use to do a lot of walking alone, I am being more practical and keeping myself safe.  When I am on the bus I know what to do if I feel unsafe, and I have passed this knowledge to family and friends all the safety tips you taught us, it has made a difference to other people’s lives, as well.

I think that these courses are really useful and the wider community should be able to access these courses on a wider scale, they should be funded, and also part of the school curriculum for children 14 to 15, as they spend money on many other things, but this is so important as a practical life skill.

Keep up the good work!

Some of the Females Comments

"I loved the floor work & the pad exercises.”

"The practical has made me very confident."

"Sev showed us that you can be a small person & still escape from an attacker.”

"I am stronger than I thought & I have grown hugely in confidence."

"Sev was excellent at making us understand our rights & how to protect ourselves.”

"Learning to motivate & value myself stood out."

"I enjoyed all the physical self-defence sessions."

"Sev is a lovely patient teacher that genuinely cares about our progress, making learning fun & informative at the same time.”

"I am more confident physically."

"Doing the practical work boosted up my confidence." "I am stronger than I think I am."

"Training was clear & very accessible."

"This training course was an invaluable opportunity."

"I got my self-esteem back & I am more confident."

"Improvement in my physical fitness."

"This course has given me confidence to continue an exercise program, which I often struggle to keep up."

"It’s hard to meet new people in London, so this was a fantastic way to meet people that I have a lot in common with, people that I would not normally meet."

All names of participants have been changed to protect their identity.

If you are looking for sessions, courses, workshops, projects and programmes that are both engaging, interactive and fun, but also informative and educational then please contact us at:

info@sevnecatitraining.com

If you think that you would like to get involved in our projects then please get in contact.  Our aim is to reduce violence and the fear of violence especially towards females and young people and we do this by delivering empowering and inspiring projects to the local community.  Please contact us: info@sevnecatitraining.com

Partnership working with Ealing, and the Mayor’s Office for Policing and Crime with Sev Necati Training!

Sev Necati worked in partnership with Ealing, and the Mayor’s Office for Policing and Crime, to deliver our award winning project “Women & Young People’s Safety Solution.”

We delivered four successful courses and this is how our last course made a positive impact on the group!

SNT works with women and girls that have experienced all types of abuse and violence, including harassment, stalking, domestic, and sexual, coercion, grooming, exploitation and any other criminal activity.

Our projects are all inclusive, however we aim to work with those that are deemed most vulnerable, with multiple barriers, who are isolated, come from dysfunctional families, have experience of violence in the home, and living in areas with high unemployment and who may be experiencing mental health issues, because of the deprivation that surrounds them. 

We teach them how to keep safe, through practical and realistic self-defence skills and empower them to make positive choices.  The training is a way of inspiring young girls and women to understand their self-worth and build confidence levels.  Improvement in fitness levels, as well as overall mental and emotional health is achieved, through our holistic approach.

The Participant - Case Study - One

Caroline, 37, White British, married with 2 children.

Please tell us why you became involved in the project/activities?

I became involved in the course because I was nervous and not very confident going out at night.  I also have two younger daughters and I wanted to become more aware if something was to come up what I would do.

Growing up in a rough area I have seen a lot of things and have been broken into and I am drawn to seeing these things.  I wanted to be more prepared if something was to happen to me.

I have been in car incidents before when someone has chased me and also once I was walking across a field and someone jumped out on me and then chased me.  I was very young at the time 18, and these were frightening incidents, I was lucky that nothing more serious happened at the time.  I want to be better prepared because of my two young children.

Please tell us how participating has helped you?

The main thing’s the sessions have helped me with include making me much more aware of my surroundings and people, like the phone situation, shouting really loudly to raise attention to get help, and having the confidence to hit back in a threatening situation.  The training really helped me be able to fight back and be more prepared if something was to happen.

The physical side has assisted me gain my confidence of being able to hit back, for example the floor work, the vulnerabilities of women and young girls, I would have just panicked before, but now I have practised the techniques you have taught us I feel much more confident that I would know what to do.

The theory was excellent, I realise that things are just not in my head, they do happen to women. Like the economically side of things, being independent and now being married, how I rely on my husband much more.  How women can fall into the trap of depending on someone, it just raised issues, like, it is just not me, it happens to all women and girls.  Also like physical intimidation, like someone being too close in your space and not knowing what to do and feeling uncomfortable and now understanding if it’s not right, if you’re not comfortable then speaking out about it.

Please tell us what has changed for you as a result of engaging with the project?

What has changed for me I am more confident in my own opinions, and what I say, how I think and speaking up for myself and when I am out and about, knowing what to do if something did happen and what to do.  I am still nervous a little at night but much more aware.

It has had a positive effect on me and my outlook on life, its ok to be suspicious in the right circumstances.

A very good and helpful course, very moved by it. 

I was very emotional at times, seeing how others experienced things, especially younger girls and I would love my girls to do the course when they are old enough.

Thank you so much Sev, this is a Brilliant course and I will be recommending it!

Some of the Females Comments

"The confidence of Sev - the Trainer, she was able to pass this confidence to others, help women to open up & talk through difficult situations."

"Sev made me feel more confident & empowered, that has helped me to feel better about myself & less self-conscious."

"I am stronger, more positive & capable."

"Being physically active & understanding what it feels like to be under threat or under attack"

"Sev's direct approach helped me to understand & appreciate how important the course was."

"Sev's such a character & her generosity & openness are inspiring! Thank you!"

"I thought Sev is an amazing instructor, who says it how it is, & doesn't sugar coat things."

"Sev is strong & funny!"

"The activities has improved my fitness but were also fun!"

"The improvement in each individuals confidence over the weeks, stood out."

"This was invaluable & really increased my understanding - mentally & physically."

"Building self-esteem & confidence helps us feel & be stronger."

"Thank you Sev, you are amazing!"

"I liked Sev's direct, no nonsense attitude & believe this intervention should be compulsory for all girls & women! Thank you Sev!"

"The whole course was amazing!"

"I feel far more physically confident & able than I did before I had this training."

All names of participants have been changed to protect their identity.

If you are looking for sessions, courses, workshops, projects and programmes that are both engaging, interactive and fun, but also informative and educational then please contact us at:

info@sevnecatitraining.com

If you think that you would like to get involved in our projects then please get in contact.  Our aim is to reduce violence and the fear of violence especially towards females and young people and we do this by delivering empowering and inspiring projects to the local community.  Please contact us: info@sevnecatitraining.com

Sev Necati works in partnership with Ealing, and the Mayor’s Office for Policing and Crime!

Sev Necati worked in partnership with Ealing, and the Mayor’s Office for Policing and Crime, to deliver our award winning project “Women & Young People’s Safety Solution.”

We delivered four successful courses and this is how our third course changed lives!

Our course’s work specifically with women and girls from multiple complex backgrounds, from all faiths, backgrounds, ethnicitie's and communities.  

We teach them how to keep safe and empower them to make positive choices.  The training is a way of inspiring young girls and women to understand their self-worth and build confidence levels.  Improvement in fitness levels, as well as overall mental and emotional health is achieved, through our holistic approach.

Our courses are all-inclusive regardless of age, ability or background, bringing women and girls all under one setting to reduce isolation, violence towards women and girls, coercion, grooming, exploitation and overall fears around abuse and criminal activity.

The Participant - Case Study - One

Charlie, 18, White British, single.

Please tell us why you became involved in the project/activities?

I became involved in the course because I wanted to feel safer, and know what to do to defend myself.  I was also in a relationship which was abusive, I felt he took everything from me, and I wanted to do something for myself he couldn’t take, I loved him so much.  And I didn’t want to be in an abusive relationship, I knew that this course would give me the push, to give me more confidence and to make me feel that I am good enough in my own skin.  My friends had highly recommended the course to me, as they had been lucky enough to do one with you.

The boy I was dating we went to the same school.  When I would go to parties, when he was not invited, as we didn’t have the same group of friends, he would ask me to send him pictures of what I was wearing then he use to start arguing with me about what I was wearing and ask me to change.  He would forever have a go at me about the length of my school skirt, and pull it down and tease me.  If I use to go on holidays with my friends he didn’t want me to take care of myself e.g. getting my legs waxed, he questioned me about these things, why I was doing them and accuse me of wanting to meet other boys, he didn’t allow me to be myself, I knew that it wasn’t meant to do this, as it didn’t feel right.

I felt shitty and sometimes thought he cared.  He would say I needed my reputation protecting, which I didn’t need it to be, but that is how he made me feel, like I was doing something wrong.  He made me feel that I was lucky to be with him and if I had a problem with something he was doing I was the one who always ended up apologising for things, he was very manipulative, I felt like a shell at the end of the relationship, I stopped socialising with my friends, and when we broke up all my friends said that I was completely a different person when I was with him.  I had to answer the phone when he contacted me straight away otherwise he would get cross with me, he used to say he would marry me and have my children, and look after me, I realised he didn’t really want too and was just saying those things, so your course helped me to make a decision and I got out.

Please tell us how participating has helped you?

The main thing’s the sessions have helped me, obviously the physical side was really helpful, however the mental side I was really lacking, my mental health wasn’t the best.  I had to have counselling, I felt I wasn’t good enough, so the affirmations and mental stuff that we did, really helped me, learning to love myself and filling in the pieces myself, instead of looking for others to love me, learning to love myself, was really powerful stuff.  It made me feel like I could rebuilt my confidence that I already had before.  I really felt that I was really confident but I realised I wasn’t,  I thought I would never could rebuilt my confidence and I realised that I could without approval from him or someone else.

The physically side helped me with my anger.  I always felt really good after the physical activities, it helped me release those emotions that I was keeping in and made me feel fresher and lighter.

Please tell us what has changed for you as a result of engaging with the project?

What has changed for me is the main thing I am very aware of my surroundings, I thought I was street wise before, but doing your course I was not, I was doing things I should not have been, like using my phone, I am checking where my exist points are now if I were ever to be in danger, for example if I am out and about.

It has also made me feel confident to challenge anyone if I had too, like people I didn’t know.  I was really timid and shy before.  I now know how to control and speak up for myself and not been seen as aggressive, if I challenge them if I feel uncomfortable or I don’t agree with, their behaviour towards me.

You and the course have made me realise that I am good enough the way I am in myself and you gave me the power to end that relationship so I could better myself and be able to feel free again. 

You have given me so much more self confidence that I thought I was never going to be able to regain again and you gave me the power and strength that I needed to remove myself from that toxic relationship. You made me feel as though I am good enough and I am strong and that’s exactly what I needed. 

Some of the Females Comments

"Thank you Sev, you are amazing!"

"I liked Sev's direct, no nonsense attitude & believe this intervention should be compulsory for all girls & women! Thank you Sev!"

"All the techniques were really useful."

"I learned a lot on how to keep myself & others safe."

"The whole course was amazing!"

"I feel far more physically confident & able than I did before I had this training."

"Learning the strikes was excellent!"

"We learn't so much, so quickly."

"I am stronger, more positive & capable."

"Being physically active & understanding what it feels like to be under threat or under attack"

"This was invaluable & really increased my understanding - mentally & physically."

"Building self-esteem & confidence helps us feel & be stronger."

 "I enjoyed learning new techniques to use to protect myself, especially the floor work."

"I really enjoyed the course, Sev's training style & the group members."

"I liked that over the course everyone was extremely nice, it was a relaxed environment, supportive, accepting, non-judgmental."

"Sev's direct approach helped me to understand & appreciate how important the course was."

"Physical training was very useful & confidence boosting."

"Learning to be more confident asserting my own opinions & rights."

"I have become more confident around others."

"The physical & emotional confidence was empowering."

"Sev's such a character & her generosity & openness are inspiring! Thank you!"

"We were free to ask questions & contribute to the discussions."

"Good advice given."

"Sev's approach & practical skills taught were very energising."

"I thought Sev is an amazing instructor, who says it how it is, & doesn't sugar coat things."

"Sev is strong & funny!"

"Now that I took part, I feel much safer if I'm out with my friend or by myself. I know what to say."

"The activities has improved my fitness but were also fun!"

"Working with the ladies, & meeting people that I would not have met otherwise."

"The atmosphere in the class & confidence of Sev, really inspired me!"

"The improvement in each individuals confidence over the weeks, stood out."

"My self-confidence & self-esteem increased. We are all women, we are all beautiful, no matter what."

"Practical was great! Sev made sure everyone gave the best in doing different techniques."

"What stood out, was our different lives, backgrounds, religions etc., but we were all together & all got confident together."

"Sev gave everyone the positivity to speak, even with different abilities/backgrounds."

"The confidence of Sev - the Trainer, she was able to pass this confidence to others, help women to open up & talk through difficult situations."

"I enjoyed meeting different types of people from all walks of life & learning these techniques as a collective."

"I have become more confident about protecting myself."

"Sev made me feel more confident & empowered, that has helped me to feel better about myself & less self-conscious."

"I enjoyed the physical side of the course, especially the floor work, it was realistic."

"Made me feel more at ease that my daughter did the course with me, as she is going to University soon."

"It has made me feel more confident that I would be able to defend myself if a situation ever came about."

"I'm more confident in being assertive when it is necessary"

"Sev inspired me to let my daughter make her own decisions & feel more confident in her when she is out & about."

All names of participants have been changed to protect their identity.

If you are looking for sessions, courses, workshops, projects and programmes that are both engaging, interactive and fun, but also informative and educational then please contact us at:

info@sevnecatitraining.com

If you think that you would like to get involved in our projects then please get in contact.  Our aim is to reduce violence and the fear of violence especially towards females and young people and we do this by delivering empowering and inspiring projects to the local community.  Please contact us: info@sevnecatitraining.com